HOW MUCH WE SUFFER
by Barbara Guarino Kruk
It is always amazing how much suffering the human heart can sustain. We have all been witnesses to life’s horrific moments. Recently, we all remembered the events of that fateful day on September 11th. Every detail of that day so vividly etched in our hearts and minds. Perhaps, we have been at the bedside of a cherished loved one during their final moments. Our minds recording every second spent, hoping to capture forever those precious memories.
It has been said that to know true joy one must experience true sorrow. How can we know if we like chocolate ice cream if we have never tasted it. Life, is much like going to the world’s biggest buffet. So many choices, so many things to experience. We can either partake and experience, or we can watch as others enjoy themselves. What will you choose? We cannot be afraid to experience life, for the fear that we will be hurt, for then we are just existing.
The day that the family of Faith DeCoursey came to visit at the funeral home was the day after her family buried her sister. The family had been through so much, now another member to lay to rest. How much sorrow, how much pain? Her siblings, all suffering, bonded together in their anguish.
When all seems dark and hopeless, it is love, that keeps us together. Faith was only fifty-four years old; far too young to leave this world. From all those I had spoken to, she was a remarkable woman who gave so much to so many. She was not a flamboyant person. She was quiet, enjoying the simple treasures of life and family. Faith was a hard worker who enjoyed what she did. Her greatest joy came from her husband Dennis. He was her soulmate, her friend, her lover and ultimately, her caregiver.
Sixteen years ago, did either Dennis or Faith, foresee that their life would throw their beautiful relationship into such a sad conclusion? I think not. Yet, somehow, I believe even given the events of her illness, Dennis would still have chosen to be her loving mate.
We make choices in our lives; some good, some not so good. Sometimes life chooses us. Life is a gift; it is what we do with that gift that defines who we ultimately become. I often tell people who think they have not made anything of their lives to sit down and write their own obituary. How many times did you help another person who was in need? How many times did you assist a co-worker with extra duties? Did you say a prayer for a sick friend? Make a donation to a worthy cause? Think those things didn’t matter? They did matter; they mattered to the recipient of your prayers, your gift, your aide. Never underestimate how you impacted someone. We live by example. Even in our darkest moments we might have demonstrated our courage and faith to someone. Even in the worse times of our lives we may have been kind to someone else. The good that we do, no matter how inconsequential it may seem, is always remembered by those in need.
We remember the DeCoursey family in all their suffering and pray for their healing.
Faith E. Decoursey, age 54, of Mastic, died peacefully at her residence surrounded by her loving family, on September 9, 2016. Faith was born into a large family in Queens, New York. She was a clerical assistant for Rochem International. She was an avid gardener, enjoyed going to Osprey Park, being at the water and nature. She like the musical sounds of the blues. Faith was a hard worker and liked to shop. She cherished a simple, quiet life with her loving husband and family. Faith is survived by her husband Dennis of sixteen years. She was the cherished sister of Colleen, Dorothy, Debbie, Dale, Barry, Gary, Terry, Glenn and John, as well as many nieces and nephews. Family and friends were received at Roma Funeral Home in Shirley. Wake services were conducted by St. Jude’s RC Church. Cremation services took place at Mt. Pleasant Cemetery, Center Moriches.
Barbara Hallenbeck, age 69, a local resident of Mastic, for the past 42 years. Barbara is retired from IGHL and a member of the Paquatuck Squaws. Barbara leaves behind her beloved husband Raymond, loving mother Doris, devoted children Nancy, Cliff, dear sister Nancy and cherished grandchild Cameron. Family and friends gathered at the funeral home. Mrs. Hallenbeck was laid to rest in Mt. Pleasant Cemetery. Funeral arrangements entrusted to Wesche Funeral Home Inc., Center Moriches.
Eileen Kingsley, age 89, a local resident of East Moriches, formerly of Vermont, Florida and Lindenhurst. Eileen was a member of the east Moriches senior citizens. Mrs. Kingsley is pre-deceased by her husband Stuart and grandson James Moore. She leaves behind her beloved daughters Deborah Kaufmann, Cynthia (Timothy) Siar and cherished 5 grandchildren, 8 great-grandchildren. A Mass of Christian burial was held at St. John’s RCC. Eileen was laid to rest along with her husband Stuart in Calverton National Cemetery. Funeral arrangements entrusted to Wesche Funeral Home Inc., Center Moriches.
Maryanne Toth, age 68, a local resident for 50 years, from Mastic Beach. Retired from the Cerebral Palsy Foundation, Maryanne was a avid mahjong player. Maryanne leaves behind her beloved children Steve Toth, Ian (Marla) Toth, Suzy (Michael) Markland, dear brother Steven Barbieri and cherished 7 grandchildren. Family and friends gathered. A service was held at the funeral home. Maryanne was laid to rest in Mt. Pleasant Cemetery. Funeral arrangements entrusted to Wesche Funeral Home Inc., Center Moriches