ObituaryCross2smMANY ROLES
by Barbara Guarino Kruk

God created a woman to be a companion for man. Out of their relationship grew love and trust and eventually the birth of humankind.
From the moment of her creation, woman had a purpose. She was to bring comfort to others. A mother is the bearer of life, the comforter of those in her care. She nurtures, teaches, and soothes. Just by her touch, a mother can calm a frightened child; her kiss can heal a wound and her love gives joy and happiness.
The greatest role for any mother is that she is the teacher. It is from her example that we grow in moral and social ways. It is from our mothers that we learn compassion, justice, and understanding.
From the light of conception to the darkness of death, it is the teachings of our mothers that guide us on this journey. I have been fortunate to have a wonderful mother and two grandmothers. I learned many things and have tried to become the women they so beautifully exemplified. I was even lucky enough to have a loving mother-in-law that taught me many things. Their greatest lesson was to love unconditionally and to put family first.
Whom shall we call mother? Any woman who loves a child is a mother. A mother is not exclusive to one who gives birth to a child. Yet, while that definition is the one most people know and understand there are so many women who have never given birth to a child but are mothers in every essence of the word.
Love, the universally basic element of humankind, is what motherhood is most associated. That is not to say that fathers do not love, but the love of a man is different from that of a woman equally good but in contrasting ways.
My role as mother has always been one that I have held so dear to my heart. I wanted to be a mother and enjoyed every stinky, sticky, teary, screaming, moment. While my babies are now nearing middle age I still think of them as my “little babies” and that will never change.
Now, in the longer days of my life, I can once again enjoy the sights and sounds of the children of my children. The joys of being a grandmother never grow old. I see my grandbabies so differently than when I was that tired, frazzled, young mom. I now have time and patience to enjoy their love and bask in their silliness. With the pressure of teaching them right from wrong left to their parents, I find that I can focus on just loving and being loved by them. My children call my house “Neverland” because anything goes at Nanny and Poppies’ house.
For those whose mothers have left this world I can only believe that they are still somewhere in the shadows watching vigilantly over us. I pray that when I am no longer on this earth that I will have the ability to see my cherished babies and guide them and keep them safe.
To all my sisters, I wish you a blessed Mother’s Day.
Christopher Campanella, age 46, passed away on April 25, 2016 at Medford Multicare, Medford. Born in Patchogue and a native resident of Mastic, Chris enjoyed working out with his father at the gym, fishing, and liked sports. He is survived by his siblings; John Dietz of Shirley, Rachel Campanella-Seeger of Texas, Rebekah Campanella-Seeger of South Carolina, and stepmother; Johanna Campanella. Family and friends gathered for visitation at Davin’s Funeral Home, Mastic. Funeral prayers were offered by Pastor John Francis of Assembly of God Church, Shirley. Private cremation was held at Mt. Pleasant Cemetery, Center Moriches.

Paul S. Marchese, age 43, passed away suddenly on April 23, 2016 at Stony Brook University Hospital, Stony Brook. Born in Smithtown and a resident of Holtsville, Paul was a great guy who loved life. He had a great, big heart, an amazing sense of humor and succeeded and excelled in anything he put his mind to. He loved NASCAR and cherished the friendship he had with his mother. Paul is survived by his mother and best friend; Laura Verardi – Meoni, father; Richard Marchese, brother; Richard Marchese, Jr., grandparents; Carlos Verardi, Carol Torrance, Michael Tanner, nephews; Vincent Marchese, Michael Power, and canine companion; Puggy Martinez. Private cremation was held at Mt. Pleasant Cemetery, Center Moriches. Arrangements were under the direction of Davin’s Funeral Home, Mastic.

Raygen Murphy, age 44, A native of the Moriches Bay area and a resident of Bellport for the past two years, Raygen was a retired dispatcher with the SCPD and was a member of the PBA. She was a very gentle, quiet woman who enjoyed gardening and genuinely loved and cared about people. Raygen is survived by her mother; Marion Murphy of Shirley, siblings; Erin Williamson of Medford, Maureen Murphy of Medford, and Carrie Pliska of New Mexico. Private cremation was held at Mt. Pleasant Cemetery, Center Moriches. Arrangements were under the direction of Davin’s Funeral Home, Mastic.

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