Jesus-Cross-TattoossmmmREACHING FOR THE STARS
by Barbara Guarino Kruk

I find so often these days that I think about my beloved family members who have died. Maybe it is because I am growing older. Perhaps, it is that those who surround me are in continuous motion, with goals and needs of their own. I find that I am also reflecting on the blessings that I have and want to be thankful for all I have been given; not just the material things like financial stability, a home, a job, those are things we work for. I want to be thankful for my children, who have grown to be good and productive members of society. I see how they are raising their own children and I feel a sense of pride because I believe their values reflect the ones my husband and I gave them.
I am fortunate to have a cluster of wonderful, caring, close friends, who have been more akin to family. Yesterday, they honored me by hosting a birthday gathering for me. I was sitting next to a dear friend whose husband had been a NYC Firefighter killed in 911. She was having a particularly difficult day as we were reminiscing about some good times we have shared. Her children recently moved to Tennessee and she has decided to follow them. While she is thrilled to be with her family, she will miss our close-knit group of friends.
She said something very profound to me. “I lost not only the physical presence of my husband, but the promise of what our life was to be. Everyday, I think of him; I speak to him; I miss him. I am hurt, angry and feel cheated that he left me on my own. I see our beautiful grandchildren and think how much he would have loved them and they would have loved him. I try not to focus on the negative, and for the most part, I have moved forward, but I will never move on emotionally.”
My friend is grateful for the fact that her beloved husband’s passing did not thrust her into a financial hole, did not leave her and her then two little girls to be homeless and penniless, but she will never recover from the sudden, needless, and vicious loss of this wonderful man, and so many others. She knows that she lives in the shadow of a hero and that no man will ever fill that void, yet she lives her life with dignity; she manages to find joy in her family and those around her. She is thankful and proud that she raised her two girls, now women, all by herself. She glows with a sense of pride when she speaks about her grandbabies. Yet, to those of us who know her well, we know that she will never give up the memory of her husband.
Age, time, and memory, all have the ability to change the course of one’s life. I try all the time to remember the sound of the dear father’s voice, but sadly, I cannot. I lament that he would have fallen completely in love with my five grandchildren and they in turn, would have loved him.
While we cannot control our destiny, we can make the best of our present, and strive to better our future. Hope, and the promise of life, are the rewards of those who reach for the stars.
If life hands you lemons, make lemonade…
Maureen Brewer, age 66, passed away at Brookhaven Memorial Hospital, Patchogue. Born in Bronx, NY and a resident of Mastic Beach for twenty years, Maureen liked to spend her time painting, gardening and cooking. She loved the History Channel and enjoyed listening to soul music. Surviving Maureen are her children; Nicole Brewer of Mastic Beach, Christine Brewer of Queens, Kimberly Brewer – Key of Virginia, seventeen grandchildren, three great grandchildren, and siblings; Robert DiBene of Bronx, and Peter DiBene of Upstae, NY. Family and friends gathered for visitation at Davin’s Funeral Home, Mastic. A Mass of Christian burial was celebrated at St. Jude’s R C Church, Mastic Beach with Rev. Gregory Yacyshyn officiating. Private cremation followed at Mt. Pleasant Cemetery, Center Moriches.

Joe Clinton, age 80, passed away on March 22, 2016 at the Peconic Bay Medical Center, Riverhead. Born in Washington, NC and a resident of Riverhead for thirty-two years, Joe was a retired veteran of the United States Army. He liked to spend his time crabbing, working on small engines, and detailing his car. He is survived by his wife; Carol of Riverhead, children; Ladaja Clinton of Riverhead, Kianna (Wale) Trent Coach of Moriches, George Trent of Coram, Tasheena (Antim) Trent-Hopkins of Queens, Travis James of Riverhead, Shawn Trent of Riverhead, siblings; Hurley (Ann) Clinton of Riverhead, Alonzo (Betty) Clinton of Southampton, Maceo Clinton of North Carolina, Johnnie Clinton of Riverhead, nieces; Janice Pearl, Hilda Houpe-Parish, and nephew; David Clinton. Family and friends gathered for visitation at Davin’s Funeral Home, Mastic. Funeral services were held at Galilee Church of God in Christ, Riverhead with Rev. Pennon officiating. Interment with Full Military Honors followed at Calverton National Cemetery, Calverton.

Ann DeVivo, age 92, passed away on March 28, 2016, at Good Shepherd Hospice, Port Jefferson. Born in Brooklyn and a resident of Manorville for twenty years, Ann enjoyed crocheting and going to Atlantic City. She is survived by her niece; Angela I. Miller of Mastic and nephew; Frank Illardo of Holtsville. Private cremation was held at Mt. Pleasant Cemetery, Center Moriches. Memorial services will follow at a later date. Arrangements were under the directions of Davin’s Funeral Home, Mastic.

Joan Kruger, age 62, passed away on March 26, 2016, at Mather Memorial Hospital, Port Jefferson. A resident of Mastic Beach for twenty-seven years, Joan enjoyed cooking, gardening, singing and dancing, going to the beach, and loved to read and crochet. She is survived by her children; Nicole and Richard Kruger of Mastic Beach, grandchildren; Michael Stark and Carly Schmidt of Mastic Beach. Memorial Services were held at Davin’s Funeral Home, Mastic. Private cremation held at Mt. Pleasant Cemetery, Center Moriches.

Donna Anne Miller, age 56, passed away on March 28, 2016, at her Shirley residence. Born in Southampton and a resident of the Shirley-Mastic area for twelve years, Donna enjoyed baking, watching Law and Order and Criminal Minds, and was a huge NASCAR fan. More than anything, Donna adored her family and loved spending time with them. She is survived by her children; Rebecca (fiancee Garrett) Miller of Mastic, Kevin (Crystal) Roesing of Missouri, grandchildren; Emmett Miller of Mastic, Ava and Jaxson Roesing of Missouri, mother; Dorothy Donaldson of Virginia, and brother; Scott Guldi of Shirley. Family and friends gathered for visitation at Davin’s Funeral Home, Mastic. Following funeral services, interment was held at Cedar Lawn Cemetery, East Hampton.
Linda Spieshandler, age 77, passed away at Brookhaven Memorial Hospital, Patchogue. A native resident of the Mastic – Mastic Beach area, Linda cherished her children, adored her grandchildren, and was a wonderful, dear friend to so many. She is survived by her children; Donna (Joseph) Silva of Shirley, Michael (Lisa) Orsi of Mastic, Anthony (Katie) Orsi of Mastic Beach, Lisa (Tom) of Florida, fifteen grandchildren and eight great grandchildren. Family and friends gathered for visitation at Davin’s Funeral Home, Mastic, Funeral services were also held at the funeral home with private cremation following at Mt. Pleasant Cemetery, Center Moriches.

Lillian Stafford, age 90, passed away at Brookhaven Memorial Hospital. Born in Brooklyn and a native resident of Mastic, Lillian was a member of the Forge River Senior Citizens, enjoyed gardening, going to Smithpoint beach, and loved dogs and birds. She is survived by her children; William Stafford (Kathy) of Medford, Judith (Michael) Seif of Shirley, grandchildren; Kenneth Stafford of Middle Island, Mark Stafford of Medford, Eric Seif of Arizona, Brian Seif of Arizona, Timothy Seif of E. Patchogue, five great-grandchildren; Gavin and John Seif of Arizona, Lily and Summer Seif of E. Patchogue, and Jake Stafford of Middle Island. Family and friends gathered for visitation at Davin’s Funeral Home, Mastic. Funeral services were held at St. Andrews Episcopal Church, Yaphank with Rev. John Purchal officiating. Interment followed at Brookfield Cemetery, Manorville.

Donald S. Thompson, passed away on April 4 after a short illness. He was an avid fisherman and retired Steamfitter of Local 638 after 46 years. Beloved husband of Candy, loving father of Kenneth and Charles, proud grandfather of William, Jordan, Christian, Charles and Brooklyn, and is also survived by sister Joan Seery and brother Russell Thompson and numerous nieces and nephews.. Religious services were officiated by Pastor Mark Hurd of the Manorville Community Church at Sinnicksons Moriches Funeral Home. Interment was in Mt. Pleasant Cemetery, Center Moriches.

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